In the everyday, you’re not an “I-Self” — you’re a “They-Self.”

" It’s important to grasp Heidegger’s main point. He isn’t saying that what’s most basic to your existence is a you that then gets overrun by the “They.” Instead, the most basic aspect of your existence is the “They.” In the everyday, you’re not an “I-Self” — you’re a “They-Self.” Your most basic mode of being is a kind of robotic conformity. Still, if you want to be an individual, this is where you must start; your individual self must emerge from your life in the everyday. Without an everyday self to function as the backdrop, your own individuality isn’t really possible."